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Eco-friendly Lifestyle

Tue, 13 Oct 2020 20:01:21 GMT

Eco-friendly Lifestyle

An eco-friendly lifestyle makes you more elegant and charming.

Etiquette and manners are always inseparable. Although they have something in common, manners are more important than etiquette. Etiquette has never been rigid, though times have changed. Rather, more content has been added, such as netiquette for using the Internet and mobile phone etiquette.

Today we have one more lesson to learn - to be green. If a person develops good habits in his or her life in protecting the environment, and educates the next generation with such good behaviours, then protecting the environment will become part of the content of good manners.

One of the key elements of etiquette and manners is self-discipline. For example, if you picnic in the park, will you use recyclable or dissolvable handy utensils or plastic cups and saucers? A self-disciplined person would always consider the benefit and welfare of other people first, think of the consequence and impact of his/her actions. As for parents, they have made a positive impact on their children by their environment-friendly actions, so the children will be aware of this at a young age.

The easiest way to become environmentally friendly is to start with your home life. Do you ever turn off your tap when brushing your teeth? Do you turn off the lights when leaving the room? Do you unplug an appliance when you are not using it to save energy? Do you use paper towels rather than towels? Do you bring your own shopping bags when shopping? When going out for a picnic or birthday party, do you choose dissolvable paper cups or a cheaper disposable plastic cup?

Just think about this, if people all over the world became eco-friendly, wouldn't the world and the planet be greener? Some people are green at home, but when they travel, they become prodigal because they have paid for the service. They use or even waste hotel room equipment and supplies as they please, such as leaving the lights on and leaving the air conditioner or heater on when they go out; asking for sheets and towels to be changed every day (but not every day at home)…etc. Many hotels now advise guests to change towels and bed linen sparingly for environmental reasons and to bring personal toiletries with them. Some hotels market themselves as eco-friendly. Are you interested in choosing these hotels when planning your holiday? The purpose is to do our part to protect the planet.

When you travel, is it necessary to buy souvenirs for a trip? Some years later, will you still have them? Or do they end up in the bin? If you are already a very environmentally conscious person, what should you do when you visit some ‘not so environmentally conscious’ friends? Will you advise politely rather than directly criticising them? Practising good manners means you don’t embarrass people. You may say, ‘If I were you, I would do this’. Or roll up your sleeves and demonstrate. But remember that you cannot force others to follow your way, so you need to give them wise advice and let them choose and think.

Who said that applying etiquette was hypocritical? In fact, it is a kind of wisdom. From now on, let environmental protection become a habit and a way of life that makes you more educated and more charming. Etiquette indeed covers all areas of life.

Image Matters

Sun, 20 Sep 2020 12:33:39 GMT

Image Matters

A person, at any age, should try to look presentable. Caring for appearance will make a person more responsible.

Image matters. Whether it is one's business or the operation of a company, image is especially important. You might ask: What's the difference between an impression and an image? According to the Oxford Dictionary, an impression is an idea, a feeling, or an opinion that you get about somebody or something, or that somebody or something gives you. Impressions are usually formed without deep thought, but only by some small superficial detail. The first impression we often speak of is that people make judgments quickly based on a person's appearance and body language. And image, as the Oxford Dictionary explains it, it is a picture, photograph or statue that represents somebody or something.

Image is seen as an art, so it should be built with great care. In fact, nowadays image has a broader meaning that it includes a person's clothing, makeup, tone of voice, spoken words, facial expressions, eye contact, postural gestures, social behaviour, and manners, etc. A firm and strong handshake, a sincere eye contact gives the impression that one can be trusted. A well-dressed person is considered professional, intelligent, or even wealthy. An enterprise also has an image. How its employees handle their relationship with customers, how its senior management conducts public relations activities and publicity, and even the uniform are all part of its image. Some professions in the market, such as fashion consultants, image designers or stylists, image consultants, and some reality ‘transformation’ shows, are all image related.

There is a new English term, metrosexual. According to Wikipedia, metrosexual is a portmanteau of metropolitan and heterosexual, coined in 1994 describing a man (especially one living in an urban, post-industrial, capitalist culture) who is especially meticulous about his grooming and appearance, typically spending a significant amount of time and money on shopping as part of this. Men's consumption of grooming skincare and cosmetics has been on a rapid rise in recent years. Personally, I think that when men care about their appearance, it is actually a great thing.

Nowadays, it is difficult to determine a person's age based on his or her appearance. Living conditions are excellent and more people are paying attention to grooming, especially skin care. I once heard the saying that beauty is taken for granted when one is young, but after one is middle-aged and old, one is responsible for it. After one has reached middle age, one can hardly stop ageing, but one can still slow down the progress. Many celebrities are more graceful and dignified than when they were young. Therefore, a person, at any age, should be responsible for his or her appearance.

It is mentioned in the beginning of the article that there is a wide range of image, not just clothing. Therefore, to stay healthy and elegant is not an easy task. You need to watch your diet, exercise regularly and choose the right clothes. This is an on-going process. Once you have got used to a healthy and active lifestyle, you look great and confident. The more you make these good habits into a routine the better you will feel inside out. Meanwhile it will help you to feel more comfortable and more capable.

The reward is obvious. Every time you appear in front of a client, you get extra credit and better results. For the message you send is that you are confident, know how to live a good life, and that you are competent and educated. Some people choose to go for plastic surgery. But they also must prepare and accept the risk that the side effects will leave them with lifelong regrets. Personally, I am very much against plastic surgery. There is nothing wrong with proper beauty treatment and skin care, but plastic surgery as a ‘shortcut’ could make your life miserable.

Thank-You Letter

Sun, 20 Sep 2020 12:16:38 GMT

Thank-You Letter

It is not surprising that many people do not even know the basics of manners.

There are always little things you do in life that make you a classy person in the eyes of others. A simple thank-you card or a thank-you letter will make all the difference.

Traditional thank-you cards are custom-made with your (or together with your spouse's) name on them. Nowadays stationery and gift shops have a wide variety of cards to choose from. For those with humour or funny design, you need to send to the right people.

It is considered rude to forget to thank someone, or deliberately not thanking. Some people say, ‘I already thanked him when I left that night’. Sorry, that is just a basic courtesy, and there should be a formal thank-you afterwards. A formal acknowledgement can show appreciation and show gratitude to the other person for taking the time and effort to arrange the hospitality. It is a sign of respect for the person who helped you, showing that you are not taking the other person's hospitality/good deed/help for granted. Therefore, a thank-you message will affirm the other person's importance, bringing or enhancing your friendship and making you a cultured person.

It is now popular to use email or text messages, this is an option. But please send them within 24-48 hours, the sooner the better. But if the other person is important to you, a person of high position, a person you admire and respect, the most formal form is a handwritten letter and card stating the reason for your thanks. Remember to keep it concise, avoiding any negative or unpleasant aspects. For older people, be careful with your ‘humour’ and be appropriate.

The most common reason to give thanks is after dinner. Do not complicate the content of your acknowledgement, keep it simple. In addition to expressing your gratitude, you should also praise something in particular, such as: the food was delicious, the restaurant environment was elegant, the host's home was comfortable and warm, the table setting was exquisite, the evening was full of laughter or good memories, etc.

Those who receive a thank-you letter, or card do not need to reply. Sometimes if we give a big favour or help to someone, they may send back a small gift or a gift voucher as a thank-you. In this case, you do not have to write a card to thank them, just simply acknowledge that you have received the gift.

I often receive thank-you cards from colleagues (my fellow etiquette consultants), clients or students (who have attended our courses). I usually stack up different designs of cards. We practise what we teach.

What You Wear Is A Statement

Sun, 20 Sep 2020 11:38:38 GMT

What You Wear Is A Statement

Your image is an extension of a business card and company brand.

It sounds shallow to judge people by what they wear, but it is an indisputable fact that we are all used to judging people by their looks.

When strangers meet, first impressions are made in a second or two, and it takes longer to change that impression. That is, before you open your mouth to introduce yourself and sell your products, others have already made subjective and biased judgements from your appearance, clothing, and body language. A beggar, if he is cleaned and styled, then put into a room full of professionals, will be considered by most people to be a successful and intelligent person. Likewise, even if you have a lot of talent and inner beauty, but look messy and untidy, you will not be respected by others.

A person's grooming and styling, on business occasions and in the workplace, are a display of one's personality and respect to others. The key to decent clothing is firstly neatness and secondly fit. The key is to prepare your next day's clothes the night before. Before you go out, if you have any doubts about your clothes, for example: are they too tight? too loose? too sexy? too conservative? And the colour is not right? If you have such doubts, do not even think about it anymore, change them right away, or you will be in a state of discomfort all day long.

When it comes to dressing up, Coco Chanel has a golden rule, which is to put on the accessories you consider appropriate and beautiful, and then take away one. Less is more, minimalism is beauty. Men may not have as much choice as women and spend less on clothing, but there are accessories they can have to make them stylish: watch, pocket square, bag, tie and cravat, bow tie, business card case. There are mistakes that men always make, such as trousers are too short or too long, as are the sleeves of the suit; or the colour of the belt and shoes do not match.

It is common sense to wear different clothes for different occasions, but as times have changed, nowadays the dress code is becoming more casual. But in the workplace, it is still important to wear the right clothes, as mentioned above that a person should dress for his profession. It is recommended to do some research to understand the dress code: casual, smart casual, business, business casual, formal and business formal.

Meanwhile, you have to know what to expect from the perspective of your client - whether you are a hair stylist, a financial advisor, a teacher, an artist - and dress to match the industry you are in. One thing to keep in mind: dress in a way that is not only comfortable for yourself, but also for those around you.

Now you might have a question: Does it cost a lot of money to dress appropriately? The answer is No. It takes time and effort to find the right style for you. You do not have to spend a fortune in buy clothes if you have just started working. For example, you can choose classic styles, good fabrics, and neutral colours, which will never go out of fashion. Buy some good quality clothes in Christmas and New Year sales and this will save you a lot of money. It is important to think about how to mix and match. You can ask your close friends for honest opinions.

When you dress properly for the occasion and you are comfortable in what you are wearing, you will look confident, natural, and charming.

Elegance is an attitude

Thu, 30 Apr 2020 10:05:20 GMT

Elegance and modest demeanour are a person’s brand. The English noun elegance and the adjective elegant are derived from the Latin words elegans and elegantem, meaning choice, exquisite thing, taste. So taste is optional! By implication, attitude is also a choice, you can choose to be elegant or you can choose not to be.

Elegance is an attitude! I first saw this line in a Longines commercial featuring Audrey Hepburn. Nowadays you see more stars and celebrities posting as Longines' models. When you admire the handsome men and women in the ads and the beautifully designed watches, have you ever noticed this slogan? If this is really an issue, then a lot of people need to think about their attitude.

Elegance and modest demeanour are a person’s brand. The English noun elegance and the adjective elegant are derived from the Latin words elegans and elegantem , meaning choice, exquisite thing, taste. So taste is optional! By implication, attitude is also a choice, you can choose to be elegant or you can choose not to be. Moreover, the word etiquette is derived from a French word meaning label or tag, so one carelessness can reveal the identity and background of a person.

Elegance, however, has nothing to do with the affordability of a Longines watch, namely it has nothing to do with wealth.

Sometimes I went to Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou for business trips and saw many new developments in these metropolitan areas. But the software manners is to be improved. But one day in the underground of Shanghai, suddenly the light came into the coach, when I saw two ladies with grey hair in their 80s walked in. Their hair was meticulously combed, they wore light makeup, they wore chic little vests, and what attracted me most was their shiny boots with leather tassels. That was fashionable, confident and elegant Old-Shanghai. This is so-called attitude.

To build a beautiful and harmonious society, we should start with ourselves. Elegance is also an expression of inner peace. An impatient and anxious mind just cannot manifest grace and calmness, unless you have superior acting skills. If a person needs to pretend and act all the time, how tiring that is.

Hepburn once said: As you grow older, you will find that you have two hands, one to take care of yourself and the other to help others . Elegance is a reflection of grace and kindness.

No matter you are rich or poor, you can choose to live an elegant and decent life. It is a matter of attitude.

Etiquette is founded on good manners

Thu, 30 Apr 2020 09:54:55 GMT

According to the source of the word etiquette, we have a revelation: since etiquette is a label, then a person's manners, the way he speaks, his gestures and details are all labels, and they all show or betray a person's origin and background.

Western etiquette began in France, and the word etiquette comes from the French word étiquette (meaning label or small tag). Louis XIV of France, who loved the art of dance, was the monarch who promoted the development of ballet. The stage manners you see today in ballet are a reflection of French court etiquette.

At that time, he established a set of rules of etiquette at the court, using small tags to educate royal members and servants, with the aim of making the court a model of elegant citizenship, requiring men and women of the time to pay attention to their personal manners under all circumstances. Therefore, in the 17th century, France became the centre of European civilization, and other Western countries followed her manners and fashion.

According to the source of the word etiquette, we have a revelation: since etiquette is a label, then a person's manners, the way he speaks, his gestures and details are all labels, and they all show or betray a person's origin and background. The word Etiquette was adopted in English in 1750, and according to the Cambridge English Dictionary, etiquette means the set of rules or customs that control accepted behaviour in particular social groups or social situations. The Oxford English Dictionary explains it similarly: the formal rules of correct or polite behaviour in society, among members of a particular profession or in a particular area of activity.

There is also a word manners, meaning polite and thoughtful acts, which refers to a person's behaviour towards others and covers a wider range of topics than etiquette.

Becoming a courteous person and cultivating an elegant demeanour cannot be done overnight or by attending an etiquette class. So, are etiquette and manners the same thing? Which one is more important? However, in recent times, when people talk about manners, courtesy and gentlemanly behaviours, they do not think of the French, but the British. The etiquette that originated in France was perfected by the British when it was passed on to the UK and became the standard of etiquette in the world, and the knowledge of etiquette shared in this book is basically British.

Why is that? The French people at that time liked to be fashionable and a bit show-off, you can see many portraits of a rather flamboyant Louis XIV of France. But the personality of the British, is being reserved, self-disciplined and subtle, which are the essence of etiquette. Hence the French were gradually replaced by the British as masters of etiquette. In addition, the British Industrial Revolution of the eighteenth century influenced the development of civilisation around the world. Britain's influence was the greatest, leading the world in terms of technology and culture. Therefore, British etiquette is accepted and aspired to by the world, becoming a world leader in etiquette and manners.

The basis of etiquette is good manners Although etiquette is culturally different, the norms of good manners that are accepted by most people are the same. A polite person is popular and liked by most people.

Do you think that, nowadays people's ability to communicate has improved or regressed? There is no doubt that the development of technology has brought us many electronic products that facilitate communication, but we still live in a world where we need to be social, and we can't just ‘stay at home’ and interact online only.

The fast and convenient modern lifestyle has, to a certain extent, reduced the interaction between people, and many young people do not know how to communicate and display courtesy, thus becoming anxious and uneasy in the real world. Now there is a new word netiquette in English, which shows that the content of etiquette has been updated and improved with the changing times.

However, in today's highly competitive social environment, will being Mr. Nice be a weakness because of his kindness? Is it a disadvantage in life and in the workplace to insist on being a polite person?

Goldsmiths University in London has done a study in this area in recent years, exploring the relationship between being nice and health, happiness and success. The research shows that those who consider themselves to be in the nice and kind category earn on average £3,500 more per year than their peers who consider themselves to be in the not nice category, while at the same time they are able to manage stress better and because of this they are happier, healthier, more successful and earn more than the average person.

Here, do we see the relationship between manners and emotional intelligence? EQ, emotional intelligence, defined by Lesley Giles, of the School of Management, Lancaster University, UK: It is the ability to understand, through your empathy, one's emotional state and how one is affected by one's circumstances, while understanding the feelings of others; this ability is a perception that allows you to skilfully relate to people and better manage relationships.

The relationship between manners and emotional intelligence is clear, that is to say, people who are well-mannered have a higher emotional intelligence. In short, both etiquette and manners focus on respect for others, while etiquette is built on good manners, which shows that manners is more important than etiquette. You may not know all the dos and don’ts of etiquette, but you can still be a well-mannered and cultured person.

Cross Cultural Issue

Thu, 30 Apr 2020 09:41:45 GMT

Etiquette is dependent on cultures. What is excellent etiquette in one society may shock another. For example, Japanese make noise in having soup, to make the host happy. But in western culture, this is rude.

Etiquette is dependent on cultures. What is excellent etiquette in one society may shock another. For example, Japanese make noise in having soup, to make the host happy. But in western culture, this is rude.

Even within the regions of Europe, etiquette may not be uniform: within a single country there may be differences in customs, especially where there are different linguistic groups, as in Switzerland where there are French, German and Italian speakers.

It is important to understand the uniqueness of cultures around the world and how to apply proper skills of social and business etiquette is crucial for people who want to be more successful. However, some good manners are culturally common.

Nowadays, a lot of business is conducted on a global scale. As a result you really need to do some research into cultures and taboos, in order to avoid offending people or getting arrested. If you are one of the following, then you need to pay extra attention to the international protocols:

* Planning to travel abroad, to a culture of which is different from yours;

* Seeking employment with a foreign corporation;

* Trying to do business with foreigners;

* Trying to market a product or service to a foreign corporation / country;

* Working with a group of people of different nationalities;

* Hosting a foreigner in your home or staying as a guest in foreigner's home.

Some Taboos.....

Brazil : Avoid conversation topics such as Argentina, poverty, religion.

China : Avoid sending chrysanthemum as gift because it is the flower for mourning, or sending clock

which is linked to death; Do not place chopsticks straight up in the bowl.

India : Feet are considered unclean so never point your feet at someone.

Japan: Do not give gifts in odd number, or in the number of four (sounds like death). Tipping is not

expected.

Saudi Arabia : There are a lot you need to find out before your visit, such as women should always wear

modest clothing in public, alcohol and pork are illegal...

Thailand : Do not touch or pat a child's head.

Etiquette Tips for Foreign Students

Thu, 30 Apr 2020 09:32:46 GMT

We have given lectures and lessons to foreign students who stay with host families. Some of them have issues in communication and misunderstandings. We know that apart from the cultural shock, there are some rules that the students shall go by.

We have given lectures and lessons to foreign students who stay with host families. Some of them have issues in communication and misunderstandings. We know that apart from the cultural shock, there are some rules that the students shall go by.

Here are some tips to improve communication with the host families and have a pleasant stay and good memory while study in the UK.

Do......

* Do make your needs known so the host family knows your thoughts.

* Do talk about ‘rules’ within the first few days and ask questions about them.

* Join them for meals to bond and learn British culture.

* Send thoughtful gifts for special occasions, such as family members' birthdays.

* Be respectful of local and family customs. Don't be afraid to ask and check it out.

* Mind the little things that count, such as no banging door, keeping the toilet clean...

* Communicate and spend time with family, rather than hang out a lot with your ipad and iphone.

• Respect privacy

• Help out with chores, though you have paid for the service.

• Save energy. The utility in the UK is no cheap. Be sensible.

Don't ......

* Be afraid of making mistakes in speaking English. If so you will lose a lot of opportunities to practise your English.

* Be a slob. Keep your room clean.

* Be shy. This will not help to improve communication with the family. You need to speak out your thought.

* Be demanding as a diva. Be sensible in asking for things.

* Forget to express gratitude, for the food, laundry....etc.

* Be Critical and picky on food.

The Art of Correspondence

Thu, 30 Apr 2020 09:23:42 GMT

Certain rules still apply today either in formal writing or in electronic communications. Letters and emails should begin with a greeting:

Dear Sir or Madam, this is appropriate in business when you don't know the name of the recipient. It is often used in marketing letters to potential customers, or to a new corporate account.

Certain rules still apply today either in formal writing or in electronic communications.

Letters and emails should begin with a greeting:

Dear Sir or Madam, this is appropriate in business when you don't know the name of the recipient. It is often used in marketing letters to potential customers, or to a new corporate account.

Dear Mr/Mrs/Ms/ Miss Smith, is the formal way of addressing someone whom is not acquainted, in social and business. If you do not know the woman's preference, just use Ms. This is also courteous to address an older person or someone of senior position.

Dear John Smith is less formal than the previous two forms and is used in business correspondence, when you don't know the person you are writing to.

Dear John is for friends, or someone you know well.

Hi John and Hello John, are used for friends who have been corresponding via emails. You do not use this form when you write your first letter or emails.

At the end, both letters and emails are to be signed as:

Yours faithfully - for letter begin with Dear Sir / Madam.

Yours sincerely - for Dear Mr Smith or Dear John Smith.

Yours and With best wishes - for less formal correspondence.

U or Non-U?

Thu, 30 Apr 2020 09:19:08 GMT

The Queen's English is elegant English. It is whether people use speaking and writing language correctly and elegantly. Some might say that Her Majesty is a person of certain age and certain level of class, but in fact nowadays this is less important than it used to be. She is more a linguistic snob. For example, she does not say Posh since this is not an elegant word.

Classic film My Fair Lady was made from a play Pygmalion by George Bernard Shaw. In 1912 he wrote this in preface:

It is impossible for an Englishman to open his mouth without making some other Englishman hate or despise him.

Later Professor Alan S.C. Ross published his famous U and non-U: an essay on sociological linguistics. This was a 40-year gap but it seemed not much had changed. He said: It is solely by its language that the English upper class is clearly marked off from the others.

However, language and class distinctions have evolved and changed over the last 50 years. Below are some interesting examples of use of words.

U Words

Bike or bicycle

Dinner jacket

Vegetables

Ice

Scent

Ill (in bed)

Graveyard

Spectacles

False teeth

Mad

Jam

Napkin

Sofa

Lavatory or loo

Good health

Pudding

Drawing-room

looking-glass

Writing-paper

How d'you do?

Wireless

Non-U

Cycle

Dress suit

Greens

Ice cream

Perfume

Sick (in bed)

Cemetery

Glasses

Dentures

Mental

Preserve

Serviette

Settee or couch

Toilet

Cheers

Sweet

Lounge

Mirror

Note-paper

Pleased to meet you

Radio

The Queen's English

The Queen's English is elegant English. It is whether people use speaking and writing language correctly and elegantly. Some might say that Her Majesty is a person of certain age and certain level of class, but in fact nowadays this is less important than it used to be. She is more a linguistic snob. For example, she does not say Posh since this is not an elegant word.

Dessert or Pudding？

Thu, 30 Apr 2020 09:07:52 GMT

Does using the term pudding or dessert have connotations of class?

It is confusing for some tourists when they visit the UK. The term pudding is typically a British term when used to reference the sweet course following a main, while In the US and many other countries it is a dessert. Nowadays many British refer sweet to dessert only, because time has changed and people are more casual with terms.

Does using the term pudding or dessert have connotations of class?

It is confusing for some tourists when they visit the UK. The term pudding is typically a British term when used to reference the sweet course following a main, while In the US and many other countries it is a dessert. Nowadays many British refer sweet to dessert only, because time has changed and people are more casual with terms.

To make it simple, the clearest difference between a pudding and a dessert is that, a dessert is sweet, but a pudding can be both sweet and savoury, it is usually used to describe a particular type of food or sweet. Dessert could be fruits, that you use fork and knife to cut. You only use spoon for pudding.

Yorkshire pudding served with roast beef in traditional Sunday lunch is savoury. Black pudding, Steak and Kidney Pudding are definitely not sweet. A pudding usually is a dish of more homely or rustic. A dessert is lighter and more sophisticated, such as chocolate mousse. However, the word Dessert is rarely used by the British upper class. Some fine restaurants and private clubs would use Pudding to refer to the sweet course.

How to make a good cup of tea

Wed, 29 Apr 2020 23:00:15 GMT

The first important thing is the water. Avoid using tap water, instead, use fresh water. Bottled spring or mineral water is a good choice. Because fresh water contains more oxygen which is vital in bringing out the best flavour of the tea.

The first important thing is the water. Avoid using tap water, instead, use fresh water. Bottled spring or mineral water is a good choice. Because fresh water contains more oxygen which is vital in bringing out the best flavour of the tea.

Ideally wait until the boiled water cools down a bit to the temperature of 80°C, or you can boil the mineral water until it is about to boil(when you see bubbles starting to rise). Pour in some hot water into the tea pot and toss around to warm it up, then empty the pot, so as to sustain the temperature of the tea later. Allow the tea to brew for at least 3 minutes, the leaves will rise and open up to release the uptimum flavour and aroma.

Some might think that it is a good idea to boil water and tea leaves together to bring out the full flavour. In fact this will just make the brew taste bitter. Because tannin is insoluble in water and when tea leaves are boiled with water, the tannic acid simply increases. In Hong Kong tea cafes, people would boil tea leaves with water for strong and bitter flavour.

Tips for Barbecue Party

Wed, 29 Apr 2020 22:44:11 GMT

As the summer begins to really heat up, people like to heat up the barbecue too. In summer, it is really fun to gather friends and family for a barbecue party in the garden under the sun, or even under the stars.

As the summer begins to really heat up, people like to heat up the barbecue too. In summer, it is really fun to gather friends and family for a barbecue party in the garden under the sun, or even under the stars. But there are certain things you need to know for a enjoyable and successful barbecue party, without disrupting and annoying your neighbours.

Planning

Provide enough comfortable seats and shade for guests. Ensure that the barbecue is lit and ready before guests arrive. Inform your neighbour of your party or even invite them, to avoid complaint, because sometimes the smoke and aroma could '' suffocate'' them.

Food and Drink

Prepare enough chilled water and drinks to keep your guests hydrated, that is plentiful supply of drinks. Adjust and well balance the food choice for the guests (vegetarian and meat eaters).

Other Logistics

You'll need napkins, paper plates, cups, and cutlery. And you need music! Good choice of music will make your party more successful. But the volume of music should not be too loud.

And......

When you are having a good time, your neighbours will be much disturbed if the party goes into the night. You need to control the noise and the volume of music. Always think of how other people feel when you have fun.

Celebrating the New Year

Wed, 29 Apr 2020 22:36:36 GMT

Celebrating the eve at home while watching firework live broadcasting is a good choice. You might be invited to a New Year party . Here are some tips that you need to know.

Pour the drinks (champagne, wines....) a few minutes before the count down. Prepare juice, ginger ale or other sparkling drinks for non-drinkers.

The host / hostess should initiate the toast, asking other people to raise their glasses, saying Happy New Year.

When toast, it is good to raise your glass to eye level and take one sip. You don't have to clink glasses with everyone if it is a big group.

Celebrating the Chinese New Year in London

Wed, 29 Apr 2020 22:28:36 GMT

Lunar New Year, the most important festive for the Chinese, is celebrated in central London every year. British people are impressed and amazed by this zealous, extravagant celebration, a feast mixed with tradition, superstition and wishes. British and foreigners are also seen in this street carnival, joining the dragon and lion dances or group practising kungfu nearby China Town.

Traditionally the celebration lasts 15 days with the last day – 19th February, Yuanxiao as the Chinese Valentine’s day.

If you are joining some Chinese friends to celebrate, or invited to share a New Year’s Eve meal, these are some tips for you to know.

The festival starts right off with using Chinese phonetic sound to express goodwill and bless people. Wishing and blessing people with good words is utmost seriousness. The number 8, is considered as good luck and prosperity. The number 9 means everlasting. Funny enough for Chinese, number 13 is a lucky number while number 4 should be avoided. The other widely used word is ‘fish’. The phonetic sound of fish in Chinese sounds like ‘plentiful’ or ‘with surplus’, representing a lifetime full of abundance or business with surplus.

The colour of the New Year is mainly red. This colour is really overwhelming so you would see it everywhere. Avoid black and white during this period, they are the colour for funerals and moaning. If anyone gives your children small red packs with money in, receive them with joy. This is a traditional way for the elders to bless children.

Dumpling is the main dish for the dinner, a time for family reunion and friends gathering. Eating is a VERY BIG ISSUE. You certainly don’t want to embarrass yourself or ‘bring bad luck’ to the host family. Here are some Dos and Don’ts for Chinese table manners:

-Do not sit down until the host does or she/he asks you to do so.

-The most senior person will be the first one to be served food, by the younger.

-If the meal is in a restaurant, make sure the dishes are ordered in even number. Odd number means bad luck and it is traditionally for funeral meal.

It is polite to pour tea for people sitting around you.

-Slurping soup means you enjoy it and this is a way to please the host / cook.

-Try to use chopsticks rather than asking for fork and knife as soon as you sit down. Other guests are happy to teach you, a good ice-breaking.

-It is considered good manner to offer and serve other people food. So if you are offered food, accept it with thanks. It is rude to refuse.

-Do not point at anyone with chopsticks and do not stick them upright in a rice bowl.

-Other must-have food is chicken and fish for the meal. Never flip a fish over, this indicates bad luck.

-Never split the bill with the host, but try to offer sharing it somehow.

Christmas Dinner, Office Party

Wed, 29 Apr 2020 22:22:59 GMT

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Christmas Dinner

Dinner Invitation R.S.V.P. This is a French phrase, "répondez, s'il vous plaît," means "please reply." Once you receive the invitation, it is good mannered to reply within 48 hours. If you can't decide at the time you are to inform the host that you will confirm before certain date. If you are not able to come please do not ignore it. Simply thank the host and explain why.

Dress Code should be on the invitation. If you are still not clear you should call and find out, because you wouldn't want to stand out for a wrong reason.

Dietary should be mentioned in the invitation, you shall notify the host if you have issues such as vegetarian, allergic, religion, etc. It is not proper to produce a long list of food you don't like or don't eat. A good host will carefully plan the menu which is balanced and accommodates most of the guests.

Time of Arrival is very important. As guest, you can only arrival on time or be a bit late no more than 15 minute. It is considered rude if you arrive early for a family dinner unless you are asked to. The guests should wait for the signal of the host/hostess to enter the dining room to sit down.

Thank-You Note is a must after the dinner, usually no later than 48 hours. A hand-written one is ideal but nowadays text and email are accepted. Apart from thanking for the hospitality, one shall always mention one of the good things. Remember to keep it short and nice.

Office Party

It is the time of the year that colleagues gather in a more casual and relaxed atmosphere. You might meet your boss's boss and get noticed. So take it as a time to network and look for opportunity of promotion, and maybe romance.

Do arrive on time and dress up appropriately. Carefully select proper attire so that you make good impression and stand out. A smart person will use the party to present him/herself in the best possible light. If the party is optional, still try to make an appearance.

Food is secondary so you eat before going. Always hold your drink and paper napkin in the left hand, so you can shake hand with other people with a dry warm right hand. Know your limit and don't drink too much, or you would regret things you said and done.

Prepare small talks carefully if you aim to meet and impress the management, rather than just going to bond with your colleagues. But note that don't trap them in very long conversation, 15 minute is fine.

Always stay for a good amount of time, which is not to leave too early. Some people have spent a lot of time and energy planning it. If it is a sit-down dinner and you really have to go due to other commitment, better do it after the main course is served. There is an unwritten rule of staying for at least one hour.

Find out who or which department has planned and organised it and send them a thank-you note. Don't forget to follow up if you have met some new people and talked to the higher up.

Christmas card, gift and regift, tree and wreath, mistletoe

Wed, 29 Apr 2020 22:19:43 GMT

C hristmas is a time of goodwill and giving, and to celebrate with family and friends, not about spending vast amounts of money in an effort to outdo and impress. So having a good time with people you care is the most important.

Christmas Card

The first Christmas card was introduced by an English business man named Henry Cole in 1843. With internet today and in the name of Going Green, people now usually send E-cards. But nothing can replace the feeling of receiving a paper card. So spend some time and write a card to the loved ones and those who are important to you. Buying cards from charities is a good idea, you help people and send goodwill and love.

Gifts and Re-gifting

The tradition of gifts started with three wise men who gave frankincense, gold and myrrh to baby Jesus. Gift-giving in Christmas was introduced to Europe and America after 19th century. With the story of Santa Claus and an retailing phenomenon, giving-gift has since then become one of the central focuses of Christmas traditions.

We all did it, lets admit. Re-gifting is common but there are certain rules you need to know. Firstly, you don't regift things you don't like or don't want. Rather, you can give them to charities. You only regift things you don't need. Secondly, you need to erase evidence, such as your name, the sent-from tag to avoid embarrassment before you send them to someone else. Finally, send the gifts to another circle of friends, and re-wrap them.

Christmas Tree and Wreath

Christmas tree was from Germany. People had the tradition of bringing an evergreen tree into the house in winter. The German also decorated the tree with tinsel, fruits, paper figures and sweets. Martin Luther, he once put candles in the tree, as a sign of welcoming Jesus and light into his house. It was introduced to the UK after German Prince Albert married Queen Victoria. Today people decorate the tree with all kinds of things. The star on top represents the star that led the three wise men to the stable in Bethlehem.

The wreath tradition was from Roman when people used it as a sign of victory and celebration. Now it is hung on the front door to encourage happiness and good fortune in the New Year. Both Christmas tree and wreath symbolise strength of life overcoming the forces of winter, giving people hope.

Kissing under the Mistletoe

The North American mistletoe has red berries while Europe's colour is white. Legend has it that the ancient Greek used it as aphrodisiac. Ancient Britons took it as magical powers to bring good luck and ward off evil. In fact the most commonly use in continental Europe is to help relieve blood pressure and circulatory problems. Proper Etiquette for Kissing under the mistletoe:

* Women standing underneath a hanging mistletoe should not refuse a kiss.

* The man can only kiss a woman on the cheek and remove a berry from the sprig. Once the berries are gone, so does the kissing!

*If a couple in love exchanges a kiss under the mistletoe, it is interpreted as a prediction of happiness, long life and a promise to marry.

Valentine's Day

Wed, 29 Apr 2020 22:13:08 GMT

It is Valentine’s Day. For some people it is exciting and a day to look forward to. But for some it could be dreadful and a reminder of sadness or embarrassment.

There are quite a few factors you will need to consider when sending gifts and cards. It could be tricky sometimes. One thing to remember is that, this is not the only day you show love and kindness to people. There are more Valentine’s Days in a year to celebrate with your loved one.

Following are some tips, with Dos and Don’ts for this special day.

If you are secretly in love with someone, and not sure if she/he feels the same way, a box of chocolate or a card will do the work – by sending holiday wishes. You may also find out by asking the person if anything has been planned for the day, that you would like to ask her/him to join a ‘group activity’ or to ‘go to a party’.

If you have just started seeing someone recently, again no expensive gift. Chocolate and flowers are good enough. Expensive gifts and words like ‘the most important person in my life’, ‘ the love of my life’, ‘my forever love’ should be avoided. Because you don’t know how the other person feels and this can cause embarrassment or might scare them away.

Many people like to propose in Valentine’s Day, but you need to be sure that a ‘Yes’ is the answer. Do not break up in this day, unless you want to leave an unpleasant holiday reminder to the person in his/her life.

For new relationships, you can refresh your feelings by meeting at some venues that you first met or introduced. Be creative so car park, café, corner shop, bus and tube stations, etc., could become romantic venues.

If you are in long-term relationship or married, there are more choices in what you do to please. Simple or extravagant gifts, theatre, dinner, a holiday, a course, a beauty treatment …… that anything will do. It is again, good to be creative. Do or send something that will remind those sweet moments. And you can melt that person’s heart by recreating some special scenes. That is called romantic – you are caring and thoughtful.

Regardless of the time and years a couple have been together, it is always good to let the holiday refresh the love and memories.